It's not "We're here, we're queer, sorry for the inconvenience. We'll try to temper our existence to fit a mold that'll be more palatable for you to accept us." It's "We're here, we're queer, get used to it." So get used to it.
Since I did a post about polyamory because I'm polyamorous, I think it's reasonable for me to touch on this subject because I'm kinky. Also I'm a masochist so infer what you will.
There was one thing that gave Carmen's cold, dead heart a twinge of excitement, that made her feel genuine enjoyment.
In BDSM scenes the way I've been lucky enough to experienced them, I don't have to repress myself.