It's not "We're here, we're queer, sorry for the inconvenience. We'll try to temper our existence to fit a mold that'll be more palatable for you to accept us." It's "We're here, we're queer, get used to it." So get used to it.
Since I did a post about polyamory because I'm polyamorous, I think it's reasonable for me to touch on this subject because I'm kinky. Also I'm a masochist so infer what you will.